Did i ever tell you about this one time when i was a step mother?
Oh right. No i didn’t.
But i was.
And i suck at it.
I mean…it doesn’t help matters that you throw a kid who still wants his parents to get back together (oh right…that was the answer on the first lot of homework he asked me to help him with!) into a pot with a dash of attitude, a LOAD of teenage angst, a sprinkling of teen depression, a pinch of BO and a quart of some sort of mushy weird stuff that we only found out (two years later) was mild aspergers.
For the two years that the kiddo lived with us, we hit every low and every extreme on the board. Walking on eggshells doesn’t even begin to describe how it started to feel in the house. But don’t get me wrong…it wasn’t all bad. It’s just that the extremes were off the chart. We dealt with the school system, the police, the court system, the health insurance company and even managed to navigate our way around the local county and their assistance program. Everyone we came in to contact with was very helpful, but ultimately the finger was always pointed at us. We were never doing enough. His behaviour problems were our fault. Mind you…this was all before we were finally pointed in the direction of a psychiatrist that was willing to spend more than 5 minutes with the kiddo to put together an actual diagnosis. I truly hate to think what kind of hoops someone without our support system would have to jump through in order to accomplish what we did. And thats not bragging. Thats me being completely honest and devastated that other families may go through this and not know where to turn.
Last summer the kiddo went home to his Mom’s house in TX for a visit and ultimately decided to stay there for the time being. Luckily his mom is a stay at home mom and even though she has three other kids, she is able to dedicate more time to him during the day, that he needs. Currently he is being home schooled, which we all decided was a fantastic solution for him and his aspergers. And so far, with a few minor bumps in the road, so good.
He’ll be coming back here soon for a visit. And i would be lying if i said i wasn’t nervous….but its something that this evil stepmother will deal with